Uncover your unique path to deep stillness,
calm and resilience

Your relationship with yourself changes everything

Being alive is mysterious.

Understanding the complexity of our psychology can at times feel murky and confusing. Why do we behave the way we do? Why do we find ourselves repeatedly caught in certain relational dynamics? Why can’t we get unstuck from limiting or addictive behaviors?

As we grow and develop from our innocent early stages of life, we learn defensive strategies that help keep us connected to our caregivers but lead us to lose connection with ourselves. We learn to refuse certain emotions or behaviors.

The banishment of these parts of ourselves leads to lifetime suffering. 

A deficit of self-love is often the heart of the problem. 

Journeying inwards, finding, uncovering, and re-integrating these exiled parts of us is an act that requires vulnerability, openness, compassion and curiosity. It’s easy to imagine this is a mindset, but it’s actually something else.

Through stopping and resting, we can uncover and establish a relationship with our ever-present calm, and loving ‘true’ self. It is only from this restful place that we can begin to truly heal the exiled parts of us and finally give them the kind, loving, non-judgemental attention they have always longed for.

As these refused parts of us are met with the calm, clear and unconditional wisdom of our present self, they feel loved and welcomed just as they are, and find their place within us once again. As they are resolved, the mysterious ‘acting out’ of these unconscious exiles stops. 

The process can be extraordinarily direct and may circumnavigate the need to talk through, understand or analyse our behaviour. 

How this approach could help you

Deep Rest’s therapeutic services provide you the opportunity to transform your relationship with yourself. Based on a gold standard, research-backed protocol and combining a unique blend of meditative inquiry and work with unconscious processes, our time together will facilitate lasting transformation. 

This kind of approach can be powerfully transformational if you feel:

  • Caught within certain patterns of relational or personal behaviour

  • Overwhelmed, tired, burnt out, or hyper-sensitive to the challenges of daily living.

  • Driven by addictive or avoidant behaviour

  • Unable to break out of habits and reactive patterns that haven’t resolved themselves by willpower or talking therapy.

  • Limited by emotional challenges, such as frequent inner collapse, depression, anxiety, outbursts of anger, feeling wounded or misunderstood, emotional ‘hiding’ or excessive vulnerability.

  • Over-dependence in relationships, experiencing feeling ‘complete’ or loveable only through another person.

  • Isolation, driven by an intense need to stay independent, autonomous and detached from others.

What people say…

  • “Co-meditating with James was the first time I’ve experienced that blissful state of meditation when you’re feeling like everything but at the same time nothing. It’s like I was fast-tracked to my true inner being. It really is one of my top examples of how something so simple can be so powerful. James has a beautiful gift of being able to guide you to that exquisite state of being.”

    Lucinda Inch, Coach

  • “It is difficult to find the words to describe my Co-Meditation sessions with James, but maybe that is what it is, it is too big, it is beyond words, beyond the stories, beyond thinking, beyond doing. We sit together, actively giving space for feelings and emotions to emerge and within that space and connection, absolute transformation occurs. For me, this was the beginning of healing without fixing, meeting parts of me that I didn’t know existed, and recognising that part of me was never broken to begin with.”

    Margot Van Der Val, Yoga Teacher

  • “I approached James a few years ago expecting a few sessions of professional mentoring. Mentoring turned out to be something quite different - and a whole load more helpful - than I had imagined. In a very skilled and gentle way, James has led me often into a space of co-meditation, a space he holds with warmth, open sensitivity and a refreshing lack of judgement. In these sessions, I have been able to independently explore and be with arising fears, loves, anxieties and passions.  As a result, I've been introduced to resources for living, working and simply being, that I didn't know were accessible to me. I cannot recommend James highly enough as a trustworthy and tender guide into meditation, reflection and insights for a fuller, richer life.”

    Rebecca Ellis, University Lecturer and Yoga Teacher

Defining This Work

There is a lively and ongoing debate around the intersection of psychotherapy, counseling, coaching, and mentoring. Whilst certain approaches can and do effect change, it’s important to consider what you actually want or need from taking the time to look within yourself. 

A mentor is a specific expert, a counselor is a listener, and a therapist is an analyst. Whilst we’ll use all of these approaches to some degree, our work together will be focused on empowering you to discover, resolve, and integrate your own understanding of how and why you are the way you are. 

This becomes a transferable life skill that you will ultimately embody for yourself. In time,  you will become your own therapist, counselor, and coach. Whilst this form of self enquiry is a life time endevour and initially, it is essential to have another’s attuned presence and deep listening to draw out unconscious thoughts and beliefs, this approach is oriented toward you as the expert in your life, supporting you to see that there is nothing broken that needs fixing, and builds tremendous self trust. Simply put - this is a very humane and deeply welcoming approach that befriends and holds the whole of you - an embodiment of your true nature as calm, quiet and spacious presence.